Thank you for you clarification on the leave and license. I still have some doubts which I shall try and clear between ourselves individually. The punctuation exercise given of “is is not not not is not is is is is not is not is it not” looks more like a tongue twister! I think I got the beginning and the end, but got stranded on the in between part. “Is, is not, not. ------ .Is it not?”. Am I right there?
I like the statement of yours “The first to apologise is the bravest, the first to forgive is the strongest and the first to forget is the happiest. (So, be brave, strong and happy!)”. However, I must state that personally I feel that it is easier to forgive someone than to forget. All you need to do is to ignore the snub or whatever that is dished out, but forgetting is easier said than done.
Come to think of it, it’s all about you and how you view the event. If you care for yourselves, it’s best to forgive someone by not getting offended and spoiling your own mood etc. You thus avoid hurt to yourselves. You could and should proceed as if nothing has happened between you and that person (unless it gets repeated too often and becomes a thorn in the relationship) but forgetting is difficult. It is bound to come back to you, if not then, on a later occasion especially if it happens again. As the say, once may be a happenstance and twice could be coincidence but anything more must be enemy action. It all depends, finally, on the relationship you would want to have with that person.
While on the subject of forgiving and forgetting we must remember that regret and revenge is not far behind. Unless we can truly forgive and forget without regret and revenge it will ultimately hurt ourselves as well as the relationship. The statement that you made of forgetting what you forgave and of not forgetting the one who forgave you is certainly the best way forward though difficult it may be.
we forget and forgive every five years ... :)
Thank you for you clarification on the leave and license. I still have some doubts which I shall try and clear between ourselves individually. The punctuation exercise given of “is is not not not is not is is is is not is not is it not” looks more like a tongue twister! I think I got the beginning and the end, but got stranded on the in between part. “Is, is not, not. ------ .Is it not?”. Am I right there?
I like the statement of yours “The first to apologise is the bravest, the first to forgive is the strongest and the first to forget is the happiest. (So, be brave, strong and happy!)”. However, I must state that personally I feel that it is easier to forgive someone than to forget. All you need to do is to ignore the snub or whatever that is dished out, but forgetting is easier said than done.
Come to think of it, it’s all about you and how you view the event. If you care for yourselves, it’s best to forgive someone by not getting offended and spoiling your own mood etc. You thus avoid hurt to yourselves. You could and should proceed as if nothing has happened between you and that person (unless it gets repeated too often and becomes a thorn in the relationship) but forgetting is difficult. It is bound to come back to you, if not then, on a later occasion especially if it happens again. As the say, once may be a happenstance and twice could be coincidence but anything more must be enemy action. It all depends, finally, on the relationship you would want to have with that person.
While on the subject of forgiving and forgetting we must remember that regret and revenge is not far behind. Unless we can truly forgive and forget without regret and revenge it will ultimately hurt ourselves as well as the relationship. The statement that you made of forgetting what you forgave and of not forgetting the one who forgave you is certainly the best way forward though difficult it may be.
Excellent observations Shahji. Food for thought!