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Rajashree Anand's avatar

Excellent post..😊👍 I remember a Kannada proverb ಮಾತು ಆಡಿದರೆ ಹೋಯಿತು ಮುತ್ತು ಒಡೆದರೆ ಹೋಯ್ತು.

I think as you get older we learn from our mistakes.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Very true

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Prabha Prasad's avatar

Typo error correction * it is “ pensez avant de parler”

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Thank you ಪ್ರಭಾ

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Prabha Prasad's avatar

Yes. I would put in my French version

Pended avant de parler!

I am reminded of our former PM Vajpayee. He would give such a gap in between his sentences, closing his eyes, the audience was almost tempted to finish off filling in the blanks.

Also commenting on Gunda’s borrowed coat for the ವಧುಪರೀಕ್ಷೆ…. I am reminded of the following….

A man with a huge nose was coming to dine with a family which had a little brat would pass unsavoury comments in the presence of a guest. So he was tutored so much by the parents not to comment on the unseemingly long nose of the said guest & lo he said to the guest while coffee was being served to him…… shall I put some sugar in your NOSE 🤥🤭.

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Shashi Maudgal's avatar

A very useful write up indeed. Particularly for our country, where my frequent advise to young people has been to Tighten the Brain-Tongue Connection. I ask them to visualise picking up a screwdriver and using it to turn this imaginary screw before they speak.

The looseness of this connection results in the frequent “ummms, uhhhs….” that punctuate even our everyday conversations. We are good thinkers, but with a loose connection to the tongue. We will make progress as communicators if we keep this virtual screwdriver handy.

As you near the FC century, your stroke-play remains as fluent as ever, Pras. No nervous nineties. Keep it up!

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Thank you Shashi for being profuse in your appreciation of the post

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Commander V K Santhanam (Retd)'s avatar

ONE OF YOUR best POST; Worth the SAVE & SHARE

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Thank you very much!!

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Preeta's avatar

This was a very interesting read . So many people talk without thinking and face the consequences. All the instances mentioned where one should rein in the tongue ( zabaan ko lagaam do) were spot on . Rash confessions and blunt comments lead to remorse and regret later .

A quote I remember having read long back regarding sharing secrets -

Keep a secret, it’s your slave. Tell it, and it’s your master.

Henry Wilson Allen

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Excellent observations. Thank you.

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Naina: Medical doctor's avatar

Yes, very well said and thought through article !Think before you ink, look before you leap, put a filter to your mouth before you speak are advice given by many wise people including our parents. Many think it’s a virtue to speak out their hearts when emotionally charged and don’t realise that’s when “ Silence is golden and speech is silver” but alas their outbursts have made them lose many valuable relations and friends ! Thanks for sharing Sir !

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Thank you for the insightful comments

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NISHA's avatar

Giving people "a piece of one's mind" is a piece too much - one needs all the pieces one has :)

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Well said

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Tarun Kunzru's avatar

Agree Pras! It's a good idea to "aim before one shoots" . "Shoot and then aim" is a recipe for disaster. Having said that being "quick on the draw" is a talent.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Cryptic and yet spot on. Thanks TK

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