Thank you Shahji for your keen observations. I liked your pointing out how kids conveniently develop an appetite when they are hungry for screen time !
As always an interesting pick of subject. In the case of parents disciplining children and finding the ZOPA, I have seen a remarkable example with impressive results. Parents demonstrate by living rule themselves. More importantly, disciplining is supported by explaining the pros and cons of the rules. Children put your resolve to test. Should you pass, you achieve the Zone of Possible Agreement. Pleas note, this is the time Grand Parents should become health conscious and go for a walk !
And then you have things like ego, pride, jealousy, one-upmanship which sends ‘ googlies’ and hinders reaching ZOPA. It makes the mediator’s job that much more difficult. No wonder not all can be Laila Ollpallys !!
Very relevant observations. Walking the talk by itself is a means of enlisting support and acceptance. Grandparents ( you and I are in this bracket) should walk more and talk less, at home:)
In matters of commercial and business activities ZOPA is a great way to find common ground and reach positive outcomes. But in matters of politics, ideology and beliefs its best to "agree to disagree" to avoid conflict.
Your piece on ZOPA was a serious discussion on disagreements, particularly in families. As a mediator yourselves, I am sure you can speak authoritatively on the subject. The generation gap does of course play an important role. The father and the grandparents intervening are often seen in families. Yes, we need to have ZOPA in certain cases particularly in free time for kids and if it includes TV and gadget time etc. Talking of grandkids, I have instances when my grandkids feel hungry just so that they can watch on the mobile whatever they want while they eat. That’s our ZOPA. Of course we have ZOPA on what they can watch too.
Thank you Shahji for your keen observations. I liked your pointing out how kids conveniently develop an appetite when they are hungry for screen time !
As always an interesting pick of subject. In the case of parents disciplining children and finding the ZOPA, I have seen a remarkable example with impressive results. Parents demonstrate by living rule themselves. More importantly, disciplining is supported by explaining the pros and cons of the rules. Children put your resolve to test. Should you pass, you achieve the Zone of Possible Agreement. Pleas note, this is the time Grand Parents should become health conscious and go for a walk !
And then you have things like ego, pride, jealousy, one-upmanship which sends ‘ googlies’ and hinders reaching ZOPA. It makes the mediator’s job that much more difficult. No wonder not all can be Laila Ollpallys !!
Very relevant observations. Walking the talk by itself is a means of enlisting support and acceptance. Grandparents ( you and I are in this bracket) should walk more and talk less, at home:)
In matters of commercial and business activities ZOPA is a great way to find common ground and reach positive outcomes. But in matters of politics, ideology and beliefs its best to "agree to disagree" to avoid conflict.
Well said Tarun. As a GC I have found Zopa on many occasions but I have 'agreed to disagree' when the conversation veered into politics.
Your piece on ZOPA was a serious discussion on disagreements, particularly in families. As a mediator yourselves, I am sure you can speak authoritatively on the subject. The generation gap does of course play an important role. The father and the grandparents intervening are often seen in families. Yes, we need to have ZOPA in certain cases particularly in free time for kids and if it includes TV and gadget time etc. Talking of grandkids, I have instances when my grandkids feel hungry just so that they can watch on the mobile whatever they want while they eat. That’s our ZOPA. Of course we have ZOPA on what they can watch too.