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N. Raghupathy's avatar

The sustainability of a marriage be it arranged or otherwise depends on the mutual trust between the partners to move forward on an even keel. They both should strive to arrive at an agreement on most of the issues than engage in argument at each one of those. Coz, more often than not, arguments produce heat than light and eventually bitterness increasing the emotional distance between the partners.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Excellent observations

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Dr. Radha Giridharan's avatar

Enjoyed reading your piece. I was upset at the thought that my name might be changed to suit the groom. When I was reviewing the details of prospective grooms, I came across a name to match mine and decided J would marry him. Rest is history. Radha Giridharan. You can’t beat it. 🙏

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Thank you for sharing your experience. Much appreciated.

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MRK's avatar

Great post and pure nostalgia for most of us! Clearly the wedding nuptials you were attending was tying up knots in your mind!

In an ever changing marriage canvas the latest trend is for couples to enter into live in relationships and enjoy all the post martial benefits without tying the proverbial knot. While in India marriage is inevitable before they plan to have kids, in other parts of the world it is completely alright for the couple to become parents without entering wedlock. In Botswana it is not uncommon for couples get married after their kids are majors! As they say an uncut diamond has great qualities inside but it takes time to polish the rough exterior!!

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Well said!! Thank you!

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Tarun Kunzru's avatar

Is the institution of marriage, as we traditionally understood it, a little dated?

Man made customs (Sanskritik) typically have a waning relevance over time. However, what nature ordained (Prakriti) stands the test of time - Love will exist, which is above and beyond the concept of marriage.

Akal(brain power), Shakal (looks), Nakkal (horoscope) are all important attributes for different people but in my book, selfless attitude and common values are greater qualities to help sustain a marriage contract.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Excellent observations. Typical of your intellect. Thank you!

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Krupa Murthy's avatar

Hi Prasanna! It is absolutely delightful to go through your Sunday brew!! Your multi angled approach to any topic reveals the time you devote, your impressions, experiences and the rapport you build between you and your readers!! I can go on and on but what made me chuckle was the girl in question who adked" Are your parents in the hall or on the wall"?

That takes the cake!!!!!

Thrilled to know you are in Bengaluru soon!!!!!!!

Proximity Matters. Hugs, Krupa.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Thank you Krupa. Looking forward to meeting you on my return.

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Shahji Jacob's avatar

My comment is not on FC proper. While ur children may not be happy that you are going home next week, we are indeed happy that you will be back soon. The old Malayalam song goes "Orudathu Jananam ordanthu maranam." Translated it means one part there is birth and the other part there could be death too.

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