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Murali SG's avatar

Dear Pras. In corporate life Perception is more important than reality. A good presentation can hide all shortcomings and boss may think that things could have been more worse but for you.

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Murali SG's avatar

Dear Pras. Gill was preferred based on perceived potential ignoring real( ity ) performance of Shreyas. Again car door perception ( husband opening ) is not right. Reality is either the car is new or wife is new.

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Ashvini Ranjan's avatar

Perception shapes reality. It can create heaven or hell in your mind, regardless of actual events. As Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet:

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

This story illustrates it:

A wife unknowingly makes a face while seeing off her husband. He misinterprets it as disapproval, imagining she’s unhappy. Distraught all day at the office, he contemplates separation. Returns in the evening to confront her. She’s puzzled, then recalls a mosquito bit her face just then, and she reacted instinctively while holding the door.

The husband suffered needlessly. His perception, not reality, caused the pain.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Wow! Excellent observations. Thank you!!

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Lakshmi Raman's avatar

I was thinking a lot about this week's FC topic on perception and reality. One view of perception is that it is subjective, can even be judgemental and thus different from reality. But there is another view. Perception is what widens our view of things, of realities, of multiple realities even. When we look at something or a person or an event of decades ago, we see it differently as our perception has broadened over the passage of years. Our view of peoples' motives, motivations, realities shifts somewhat with our new perceptions.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Excellent observations. A very refreshing perspective. Thank you Lakshmi.

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subahu desai's avatar

Regarding the neighbour opening the car door for the wife. Could be chivalry & good manners. We were told and taught.

Always open the door for a lady, never walk in front of her, walk beside her.Let her pass first.

Ending in a lighter vein. Nowadays when a man opens the door of the car.

" Either the car is new or the wife is" Have a great week ahead.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Haha that's a nice twist to chivalry. Thank you Subahu.

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NISHA's avatar

Our perceptions can create a subjective reality that isn't always an accurate reflection of the objective world. I think of the movie Life is Beautiful as a lovely example of love shaping the perception of a child and shielding him from harsh reality.

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Excellent observations Nisha. Thank you!

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Jayachandran m's avatar

When we say Perception vs Reality, it tends to be read as ..for every perception there has to be a reality. I wonder if this is true! Eg: if there is a dance competition, one viewer may rate X as the best dancer, another may rate Y as the best, and yet another Z as the best. Is there anything as reality in this! No! For true REALITY to exist, it has to exist totally independent of subjective factors, and so what often is considered as objective, too may not entirely be so! Just a food for thought.

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Mani Srinivasan's avatar

Yes.. due to our perceptions and biases, we miss the gorilla and sometimes the 'elephant in the room' as well.. ;)

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M R Prasanna's avatar

Right you are, Mani

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